Have a nice day

Lately , I have noticed that I get to work and someone will give me a call, ruffle my feathers and before I know it I am not at peace. Its annoying to say the least. I have also discovered or rather i have always know that it is entirely upto me to pick(choose) my emotions. That is, when to get angry and when not to let things get to me. My problem is that in the heat of the moment, I never remember that I have an option.

Well, I have purposed to deliberately bring those concerns before God in prayer every morning. This morning, I was running late so I decided to pray as I walked down the road from my house. It was awesome! Looking into the sky as you pray gives you this feeling that you are knocking at heaven’s door. The clouds give you this calm feeling like everything is gonna be already. The wind feels like it is blowing your worries away and the fact that you are walking feels like with each step you are moving closer to the answer your prayer!

Thank you Lord for this new day!

Help! I am not married yet.

Just like any other girl I know, I grew up dreaming of this fairy tale wedding. Being that I have a sweet tooth, in my earlier years it was the cake that fascinated me. I imagined eating a whole tire of cake all by myself. Its my wedding after all, aint it?

Then as I got to understand more about this wedding business, I dreamed of this prince charming(oh yes there are afew unlike what you girls reading this think) who’d sweep me off to Paris for that unforgettable honeymoon. By the way, I wouldn’t know the destination until I got there!

I know that marriage is a lot more than the wedding day. It’s exciting but its’ also some hard work and I am surely gonna give it my best. However, while I am patiently waiting for that Prince charming please keep out of my business. I know that I am 30 something and unmarried which is quite unsual seeing that people are getting married at averagely 25. I am happy for them and beyond that, its their business. Please respect that this being unmarried is my business too.

No, I am not the independent woman who thinks equality and can therefore not submit to a man. No, I don’t support the notion that men are dogs. No, I do not believe in getting a sperm donor and raising my daughter all by myself. And NO I don’t have demons that need to be driven out of me, thank you very much.

I am just as important and special to God as the next married girl. I am a Christian who lives a repentant life everyday because I am heaven bound. I have the same challenges; financial, social whatever and I am certainly affected by high fuel and food prices. I am mature and can do that job just as well as a married woman

Seeing that I am normal, Can you please leave me alone and not make it your business that I am not married yet!

Seriously, one of these days people like me are marginalized. We are endangered species. But take courage you aint alone. Whatever you do, don’t get pressurized into getting married just because you are “aging”. It is never worth it. This is how to keep busy while you wait for prince charming:

1. Discover who you are and enjoy yourself. We can never find fulfilment in life unless we are at peace with ourselves. We can never be at peace with ourselves unless we find peace with God.
2. Love and indulge yourself. There is nothing evil about it. You can never love others if you don’t love yourself. That is why the bible says “love others as you love yourself”
3. Love others. Family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances. You reap what you sow.
4. Vent to friends and family and don’t take all these negative comments personally. Those people may be addressing you from their point of ignorance so, forgive them.
5. Have close friends that you share with. A problem shared is half solved.
6. Do a sport, if you are sporty. Go to the gym, jog or whatever.
7. Have a hobby and enjoy it. Travel and see places even for the fun of it.
8. Get involved in church ministry but with right motives.
9. Read alot about marriage and stuff in preparation. You will need all this when the time comes and you may not have the time .
10. Join forums online with an open mind to learn so you enrich yourself. Some people are gracious enough to share their failures, please learn from them.
11. Further your career. Get another degree, diversify into another field.
12. Manage your finances well, make investments with the future in mind.
13. Enjoy and have fun. You are absolutely normal, this is just a phase. some people take abit longer in it others not as long. It is not a competition really , you will get there when you do!

Oh, and one more thing, please remember to send me an invitation for the wedding when it is finally your turn!!!

Namez.

A name is everything. A name it is said, is the sweetest word to the ears of the owner. I think the sweetest word to me is.......I don’t know, I have to got to think about it. But I agree, it is sweet when someone remembers my name. Picture this, the company CEO runs into you at the shopping mall and addresses you by name. Sweet, right? Did I mention that he is new in the company and you are not among his direct reports? Sweeter.

Now, what do you think of this person? You worked on the same team, 5 years ago and you run into each other on the street and have got absolutely no idea what their name maybe! Snob!

Not really, I am no snob. I am just as humble as they come but there is something about names and I, they easily elude me.  I was embarrassed not once but twice today. I ran into this former workmate , we actually talked for say 5 minutes, he mentioned my name 3 times during the conversation and even upto now, his name has not come to mind. No, I couldn’t ask him, how damn is that!!!

While I was still feeling extremely bad about that, afew meters down the road, someone called my name from behind, I turned and I recognise the person. So he asks whether I could recall his name. Naw!!! The name I mentioned was not his. He was gracious enough to correct me but boy was I embarrassed.

This is my strategy,  Ima start memorizing names from today onwards. I wonder what the best way to achieve this is .  I need input here people!!!

By the way, my name is........................................and remember it when we meet!

I can’t wait!

Karuma falls in Uganda

I am a big time fan of travelling. That was actually the motivation for my other blog. I love to travel by air, by water or by road. Ok, for the water bit I lied because water freaks me out really. I even cannot swim!!! Well, thats a story for another day I guess.

Even driving 3 hours away from where I live to the country side is  a nice trip for me. I love the scenery, I enjoy meeting new people and listening to what they’ve been upto, I super love taking pictures especially of funny stuff(I find this every where I go) and I love finally falling asleep , while I watch a movie in this hotel room, after a long day.

Watch out, I get to visit Lusaka,Zambia next year with  friends. I am sooo excited!!!!

 Let the count down begin!

Yeeii I am perfectly normal!

I was seeing this guy whose ever complaint was not being able to understand me. What business does anyone have trying to understand another human being? This is what I said to him, I don’t understand myself either but I just accept me as I am. Well, he hates reading so there is no chance that he will come across this. Even if he did, he wouldn’t read!

Its true, I don’t fully understand all the emotions I feel. Never mind that I do belong to the more stable temperament category. Most of the time, I will be calm and collected, peaceful, happy and all that goes with it.

Yesterday was a different story. I don’t remember what worked me up (well, not consciously) but I was so down cast. Nothing I did could cheer me up. I felt like the whole world was closing in on me and had no idea how to come out of it. I remember telling a friend that I was feeling so down and the most annoying bit is that I even got no idea why! He was quick in reminding me of the bible verse that says “cast your cares upon Him.”  Honestly, I did not appreciate his input because all that meant nothing to me that moment. All I  wanted to do is  just be there and wallow a bit in this down heartedness. Oh yes I did. That is just how difficult it is to understand people.

Times like that come but they pass. Today, I am my cheerful self and for no apparent reason either.

I am happy  because  that means I am a normal. Sometimes I am happy, sometimes I am sad. I am so glad my feelings change, thats how God made me!