Help! I am not married yet.

Just like any other girl I know, I grew up dreaming of this fairy tale wedding. Being that I have a sweet tooth, in my earlier years it was the cake that fascinated me. I imagined eating a whole tire of cake all by myself. Its my wedding after all, aint it?

Then as I got to understand more about this wedding business, I dreamed of this prince charming(oh yes there are afew unlike what you girls reading this think) who’d sweep me off to Paris for that unforgettable honeymoon. By the way, I wouldn’t know the destination until I got there!

I know that marriage is a lot more than the wedding day. It’s exciting but its’ also some hard work and I am surely gonna give it my best. However, while I am patiently waiting for that Prince charming please keep out of my business. I know that I am 30 something and unmarried which is quite unsual seeing that people are getting married at averagely 25. I am happy for them and beyond that, its their business. Please respect that this being unmarried is my business too.

No, I am not the independent woman who thinks equality and can therefore not submit to a man. No, I don’t support the notion that men are dogs. No, I do not believe in getting a sperm donor and raising my daughter all by myself. And NO I don’t have demons that need to be driven out of me, thank you very much.

I am just as important and special to God as the next married girl. I am a Christian who lives a repentant life everyday because I am heaven bound. I have the same challenges; financial, social whatever and I am certainly affected by high fuel and food prices. I am mature and can do that job just as well as a married woman

Seeing that I am normal, Can you please leave me alone and not make it your business that I am not married yet!

Seriously, one of these days people like me are marginalized. We are endangered species. But take courage you aint alone. Whatever you do, don’t get pressurized into getting married just because you are “aging”. It is never worth it. This is how to keep busy while you wait for prince charming:

1. Discover who you are and enjoy yourself. We can never find fulfilment in life unless we are at peace with ourselves. We can never be at peace with ourselves unless we find peace with God.
2. Love and indulge yourself. There is nothing evil about it. You can never love others if you don’t love yourself. That is why the bible says “love others as you love yourself”
3. Love others. Family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances. You reap what you sow.
4. Vent to friends and family and don’t take all these negative comments personally. Those people may be addressing you from their point of ignorance so, forgive them.
5. Have close friends that you share with. A problem shared is half solved.
6. Do a sport, if you are sporty. Go to the gym, jog or whatever.
7. Have a hobby and enjoy it. Travel and see places even for the fun of it.
8. Get involved in church ministry but with right motives.
9. Read alot about marriage and stuff in preparation. You will need all this when the time comes and you may not have the time .
10. Join forums online with an open mind to learn so you enrich yourself. Some people are gracious enough to share their failures, please learn from them.
11. Further your career. Get another degree, diversify into another field.
12. Manage your finances well, make investments with the future in mind.
13. Enjoy and have fun. You are absolutely normal, this is just a phase. some people take abit longer in it others not as long. It is not a competition really , you will get there when you do!

Oh, and one more thing, please remember to send me an invitation for the wedding when it is finally your turn!!!